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Five Thoughts on the Last Five Years

If someone 10 years ago told me I’d end up marrying someone from my high school, I’d have laughed in their face. REB and I weren’t even really friends in high school. We had mutual friends and a mutual circle of friends, I knew he was a nice guy and not a douche like many of the people in my graduating class, but he and I weren’t actually friends at all. In fact, I had more classes with his brother than I had with him. I love how things ends up working out, though.

REB and I are celebrating our 5 year anniversary tomorrow. Hard to believe it’s been 5 years. Like, no joke. It really is hard to believe! So on the eve of this blessed date, I thought back on the past five years married together!


1. Be Yourself. Be Weird.
I have seriously met my match in this department. I have been a weirdo my entire life – my sister can attest to this. And now REB can attest to it, too. I say a lot of weird things, I make up words and use them on a daily basis, have a dumb, weird shoulder dance I do, and I haven’t stopped making weird faces at cameras for photos. The fact that REB can put up with that and find it “endearing” is beyond me, but I appreciate it nonetheless. There was a night he and I were laying on the couch and I started bobbing my head forward and said “I’m a chicken”. Why? Who knows. He laughed though and knowing he can put up with my weird, random moments is a blessing to me. He has even told me he likes my weird. Things feel off we can’t kid around and laugh every day. Kindred spirit nerds. Don’t ever stop being weird around your loved ones. I know I’ll be 75 and still doing that weird shoulder dance around him if I can help it. Especially if my knees, hips and other joints allow for it.



2. Make Time For Each Other.
Easier said than done, right? I can’t stress how important this one particularly has been for us. We are on completely opposite schedules. He’s a night owl and I’m a morning/afternoon person. I work out right when I get home, he likes to decompress and work out later in the night, so often times we just do our own things for dinner. I go to bed earlier like a grandma, and he’ll stay up and come to bed later. I sometimes work longer hours and there are Saturdays that he has to work. It’s all mixed up, but one thing we absolutely try to do, is a date night once a week. Whether it’s dinner out, ordering in, watching something together, going outside for a walk with the dog, just sitting in bed talking, or even trying to go to bed at the same time. That last one sounds bad, doesn’t it? I used to get so mad he wouldn’t go to bed with me, and sometimes still do (I’m learning to let that little crap go, though), but quickly learning that if he at least comes up and sits with me and we talk about our days, it’s almost like a lullaby for me and I fall asleep. Seriously. Regardless, we make time for each other despite our busy schedules and “extracurricular activities”. This is also an excellent segue into the next point.

3. Let Go of the Small Crap.
I feel like this is a life lesson for everyone, no matter your marital status. I am still learning on this one and probably will continue to learn and iterate on it. (Oh God, I sound like my freaking scrum master now). I  used to hold grudges over the dumbest, littlest things and in the grand scheme of things….none of that matters! If there is one rule we try to live by, it’s to not go to bed angry. It doesn’t always happen, which is not great, but we at least talk about it. Communication has become key. If I can’t talk to my spouse or anyone about what is bothering me and really talk it through, that’s no bueno. I know there are things that each of us do that the other finds irritating or whatever, but the point is, don’t sweat the little stuff. Life’s too short.



4. Personal Cheerleader.
Be each others cheerleader! REB is one of my biggest supporters. I don’t even know how to thank him for the support he’s shown me while we dated, while we lived together before marriage and now being married. When I decided to change jobs, he was gung-ho about it and told me I could do anything. When I said I wanted to start up a photography business he told me he was surprised it didn’t happen sooner. When I want to take little trips on my own without him to visit friends, he encourages me to do it so I don’t lose touch with the people in my life I don’t see as much. When I told him I wanted to throw down hundreds of dollars on a personal trainer, he told me he loved the way I looked and always has, but if I want to work on form and strength, I should do it. No matter what I want to do, he’s right there cheering me. I’m returning the favor too. When he told me wanted to maybe get his PhD I told him to do it. He’s one of the smartest people I’ve ever met and if there’s one person who can do it, it’s him! When he thought about switching jobs to one that would completely change our location and lifestyle, I told him do it! If it meant he’d be happy, I want to make sure he can do it all.


5. Can’t Stop, Won’t Stop the Love.
Who knows what the next five years holds, but I know the love won’t stop. We know that kids aren’t for us, so it’s just me and him for the long haul. I love that it’s just us, too. My mom once told me that I married a true gem of gems…and I used to think it was cheesy (because my mom is a super cute, traditional and superstitious Indian woman), but she’s right. He’s a gem and shines bright like a diamond and all that jazz. I’ve loved the adventures we’ve had so far, and can’t wait to see where we go next!



Year of Bliss

There it is. The big O-N-E year anniversary!

After the busyness of the trip to Dallas, it was so nice to spend three wonderful days with REB celebrating our first anniversary.

I can’t believe it’s already been a year! Where did the time go? It feels like it just whooshed on by us without a second look. So much has happened since then, and I’m so grateful for all of it!

We decided earlier in the year, after we bought our house, that the deed/title to our house was going to be our “paper” gift to each other. So we didn’t exchange gifts and instead, spent the entire weekend together, not taking calls from anyone or using our phones (except to upload some pics to share with you ;)) so he and I could really just focus on each other.

I was welcomed home from Dallas by the four-legged fur kid and then immediately had to do some work for a few hours. REB was nice enough to get us some Indian take out so I could work and not think about anything else. Delicious! I was also glad to be home in the land of 70-degree weather. The 104 crap I was having in Dallas was getting old.

On Saturday we just chilled at home, did some work around the house, ran a few errands, and enjoyed time on our deck drinking wine and reading.

We also did some photo-related projects for me, but I’ll write it up in another post. I will say that it might have something to do with how I made that sign you see there in the first picture ;)

On Sunday I booked REB and I couples massages at the same place I got my hurr did for the wedding (and where I go to get my hurr did all the time) and it was a-ma-zing. Our girls were so good at what they did and got all these knots out I didn’t even know I had! Note to self: book more massages!

After we were thoroughly relaxed and light headed, we chilled a bit at the spa and then headed downtown for brunch.

I had a LivingSocial coupon for brunch for two (plus two cocktails) at Grange Kitchen and Bar. We’ve never been here before but their brunch menu, and menu in general, is all about free range food, organically grown and then made for you!

I started my meal with a Michigan Mary (our version of a Bloody Mary) and we got some spicy fried chickpeas for the table. REB ordered the bourbon and bubbles (not pictured) for his cocktail…and my oh my…it was bourbon-y! I ordered the goat cheese omelet which comes with veggies and potatoes and sausage. Since we don’t eat meat, they gave me more veggies – delish! REB got a vegetarian hash that was so good! I ended the meal with a mimosa. By then, I was feeling pretty good, so we walked down to get some fro yo and walked around downtown taking in the beautiful day!

We had to get home though, because my friend Nick of Round Town Cupcakes (who did our wedding cupcakes),  was delivering our anniversary cake that afternoon! He had given us some cupcakes on our wedding day for us to freeze, but we kind of ate them during the week – whoops. So he agreed to make us a new cake: a giant cupcake, with a flavor not on their menu (but now is) and he even made it Indian-themed for us! It was PERFECT.

He and his mother always amaze me with their creations and designs. The cake was delicious by the way, but I think it’s easy to tell that it was ;) The rest of Sunday was spent relaxing, going on a long bike ride (hooray!) and me doing some much-needed laundry!

On our actual anniversary, Monday the 20th, we slept in (also much needed), cleaned a bit, and relaxed at home. We played with Gryff in the backyard, got ready for the work day. We got ready at night though to head downtown for our dinner reservation at The Earle. It’s this French/Italian restaurant in town that changes their menu every season and it’s just delicious. We ordered a bottle of wine, got some appetizers, ordered some dinner, had some dessert and even got a gift certificate for them for our anniversary – so sweet!

All in all, it was the perfect end to an all-too perfect weekend with my love. I can’t believe it’s been a year already, but it’s been a wonderful year!

From the wedding <3

I fell in love with a guy from my high school, who became my best friend, who understands me better than anyone and loves me for who I am. I feel like the luckiest girl and can’t wait to celebrate more anniversaries with him.

Married or not, how long have you been w/ your significant other?

Six Months

One of my friend’s mom made a tweet about how today is 8/9/10. Very cool (I love cool, number dates like this).

But for me personally, today is kind of special. Six months ago today, REB asked me to marry him. I know, I know, it’s kind of lame to try to make a “big thing” about it, but the people who really know me, know how great it is. Before him, I had some of the worst relationships ever (if you can even call them that :P). Before him, I didn’t know what it was like to really feel like you could love someone so much. Before him, I wasn’t this mushy about stuff.

All I know is that next year we’re getting married and I can’t wait. He makes everything better in my life and I know it’ll only get better from here. I’m a sucker for silly milestones, and I never used to be. But with him, I can’t help it. He brings out the cheesy-lovey-dovey side of me and I love it.